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How to Look Good Naked – Grae Drake episode

The blurb for this episode says: “A tall beauty hopes to gather confidence and live out her dream of performing a sexy tango.”

While I could write volumes about each episode of this show, three points really stand out in my mind:

1. Grae likes her body only when she doesn’t know it’s hers.

Grae’s attitude illustrates that body dissastisfaction has very little to do with actual body appearance. She has nothing but good things to say about her body when she thinks it belongs to someone else. Why are we so unkind to ourselves?

2. Body loathing keeps Grae from being fully engaged in the world.

How many of us think that we are “too fat” to try something new, or to pursue our dreams? What about her body would make Grae think that she couldn’t dance? Let’s quit hiding and get out in the world and claim our space and our dreams.

3. It’s all about confidence.

I love the moment in the electronics store, with Grae’s picture on every screen, when the cute guy approaches her and tells her that her body is fine, that all she is lacking is confidence. And her transformation is really based on gaining confidence, even more so than getting a makeover.

Keep it curvy, Grae!

July 29, 2008   1 Comment

“Keep it Curvy”

Me, trying to “Keep it Curvy”

I had coffee with a fabulous new curvy friend today.We had a great discussion on clothing woes–If only H&M had curvier clothes–the importance of confidence–A confident woman will never want for male attention–and the need for positive role models relating to curvier body types–we need more curvy romantic heroines in movies and on TV. When we parted, she turned to me and said, “Keep it curvy!”

What a great catch phrase! It captures the idea of “curvy confidence,” that our curves our positive and worthy of praise. Further, “curvy” can be a state of mind. A wise man once said to me, “A curvy road means you take your time and enjoy the ride. The same could be said for a woman….” Rather than speed down the highway of life, wind your way down the scenic, curvy route.

So, I’m going to add “Keep it Curvy” to my repertoire of phrases, with the idea of honoring the curvy-ness of life, in all its shapes and forms.

I’d love to hear about any other phrases that capture your fancy. Body love–let’s speak it into existence.

July 29, 2008   6 Comments

“How to Look Good Naked” back for second season

I’m so glad that “How to Look Good Naked” is back on for Season 2 (full episodes available online). I applaud the honesty of the women who appear on the show for revealing the depth of the pain created by body loathing. And I applaud the program for being one of the few (if not only) shows on television to feature a variety of female body types in a positive manner. How beautiful are the models in Kelly’s mirror exercise? Gorgeous, curvy women portrayed in a favorable light? Yes, please, may I have some more?

And how stunning is Kelly in her sexy, black lingerie?

As for the second season of the show, I like the changes, especially the move to hour-long episodes. I also like the addition of the catwalk–I hope that this is a regular feature. This allows for a more in-depth exploration of the impact of body loathing on the featured women’s lives.

In the first season, every time I would watch this show I would find myself wishing for the nude photo shoot. Now, I want to walk the runway in my undies and high heels!

July 22, 2008   6 Comments

FLOW Training in Atlanta – Love Yourself, Move Your Body, Live Free

Thanks to Kris Shock at EDIN Atlanta for sending me the information on this FREE body movement workshop in Atlanta on July 21, 2008. The workshop looks amazing, and I love the FLOW tagline: Love Yourself, Move Your Body, Live Free.

Writing with the Body: Words and Movement
Monday, July 21, 2008
EDIN’s Decatur office:
124 Church Street, Decatur, GA 30030

Join FLOW Training for a workshop
combining gentle movement and writing.
Drawing or coloring is also an option.
Practice tuning into your mind-body connection.
Let your body and your heart speak.

*Bring your journal and yoga mat.

Connect with your body, connect with yourself, connect with others. FLOW Training offers a variety of fitness training and workshops focusing on connecting the body, self, breath and community. For more information:

FLOW Training

*For more information about EDIN (Eating Disorders Information Network), please visit

July 10, 2008   No Comments

“DISFIGURED” – Can an obese girl and an anorexic girl be friends?

(L to R: Staci Lawrence as Darcy and Deidra Edwards as Lydia, in Disfigured, dir. Glenn Gers.
Photo courtesy of Dialogue Heavy Pictures.)

Rachel at mentions the movie Disfigured, a movie about women and weight (on DVD July 29). Disfigured is the story of “an unexpected friendship between two women – one obese, the other anorexic.” (If you are interested in whatever happened to the winner of the first season of the biggest loser, definitely read Rachel’s article.)

The movie materials describe this friendship as “unexpected”–the perception being, as the fat girl says in the film, “I’m your worst nightmare.” In the past, I’ve thought it myself: even though thin and normal-weight women who suffer from eating disorder, well, suffer, at least they’re not fat. I never held bad feelings for thin women, but I may have minimized their pain.

Thus, the movie begins with Darcy (the woman with anorexia), seeking to join a Fat Acceptance group because she feels that she is fat. And she is refused admittance to the group.

Coming from the point of view of a woman who has always been larger than the norm, there have been times that I have said (in jest), “If I didn’t have low-blood sugar I would have been an anorexic,” as though anorexia is a condition to be desired, rather than a debilitating disease. Later in the film, Lydia (the larger woman) asks Darcy for “anorexia lessons.”

Thanks to my exposure to the stories of women with eating disorders (mostly through the blogosphere) I’ve learned that language that minimizes anorexia or bulumia is as insensitive (and offensive) as “No fat chicks.” And the more you compare the experiences of women around issues of the body, the clearer it becomes–we are all the same under the skin.

I look forward to seeing how this movie treats these and other issues relating to women and weight.

July 1, 2008   5 Comments