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Love Your Body Month Tip #28 – Don’t tolerate negative body talk from others

Now that we’ve spent a month thinking about loving our bodies, Tip #28 is about spreading the love:

Don’t tolerate negative body talk from others.

In her book “Do I Look Fat in This,” Jessica Weiner describes a scenario where the women of the world simply great each other with:

I feel fat.

Yeah, me too, I feel so fat.

Negative body talk has become the common language of women, and it’s time we put a stop to it. When your friends start dissing their bodies, speak up. Call them on it. Let’s use peer pressure to our advantage and start communicating with one another in ways that foster genuine connection and support.

February 27, 2008   No Comments

Love Your Body Month Tip #27 – Eliminate body image clutter

All of the tips this month have really had Tip #27 as their aim:

Eliminate body image clutter.

We start collecting body image clutter as children.  Then we are constantly bombarded by negative messages about our bodies. Make it your goal to sort through the mental static and keep only those thoughts about your body (and yourself) that support and empower you.

And, of course, keep checking back here for more on decluttering body image–our theme for March.

February 26, 2008   No Comments

Decluttering Body Image Assessment

The first step in decluttering body image is to uncover the mental and physical clutter we have around our bodies.  The following is a 10-point assessment to reveal areas in your life where you might be holding on to body image clutter:

  1. Do you spend thinking and/or worrying about your body, food, and exercise? How much time?
  2. Do you have nagging, negative feelings around the way you look?
  3. Can you take a compliment?  When complimented, is your first response, “Thank you,” or do you try to diminish the praise?
  4. Do you ask your partner/spouse/friends/family—do I look fat in this? How often?
  5. How many diet books, magazine articles, cookbooks, etc. do you have? How many do you use?
  6. How many exercise gadgets do you own? How many do you use on a regular basis?
  7. Do you have a full or even over-full closet, but “nothing to wear”?
  8. Do you have “skinny” clothes? Do you have “fat” clothes?
  9. How long does it take you to get dressed for work? Play? Special occasions?
  10. Do you feel beautiful/powerful/attractive/professional every time you leave your house?

Once you identify the clutter, you can remove it and replace it with ideas and routines that support your well-being.  More on this in another post.

February 26, 2008   1 Comment

Reminder: Curvy Life radio interview today at noon

Just a reminder that I’ll be talking with Allison and Sara of “The Organizing Playground” about “Decluttering Body Image” today at noon at  I’m on in the second half of the show. (If you miss the live show, you can catch the replay at the link for “The Organizing Playground”.)

February 26, 2008   No Comments

Love Your Body Tip #26 – Unleash your inner artist

Today’s tip comes from the “Love Your Body Day” campaign:

Develop a creative outlet. Everyone needs a medium to express daily stress and frustrations constructively. Maybe you’re a photographer, writer, poet or all three. Maybe you can knit, make shapes out of clay or finger paint. Loving your body is also about loving your mind.

Find your art and let your body create.

February 26, 2008   No Comments

Curvy Life on the Radio – Decluttering Body Image

Tune into on Tuesday at noon for my interview with the ladies of “The Organizing Playground” on “Decluttering Body Image.” I’m on in the second half of the show. (If you miss the live show, you can catch the replay at the link for “The Organizing Playground”.)

February 25, 2008   No Comments

Love Your Body Month Tip#25 – Clean out your closet

As part of their “Be Comfortable in Your Genes” campaign, NEDA is encouraging all of us to go through our closets and donate any jeans that don’t fit.  So, in line with their challenge, Tip #25 is:

Only wear clothes that you love, that fit you well, and that make you feel your best.

If you are keeping clothes in your closet that don’t fit well or no longer fit at all then you are creating negative energy around your body image that will hit you every time you open the closet door.  Better to have a few fabulous garments than a closet full of clothes that make you feel bad.

And by donating the clothes that don’t fit you anymore you are helping someone in need.  That’s making two happy people with one pair of jeans (or one shirt, one dress, etc.)

February 25, 2008   No Comments

Love Your Body Tip #24 – Embrace your genes

Today marks the beginning of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, and NEDA‘s theme this year is our tip for the day:

Embrace your genes.

The goal of the campaign is to encourage all of us to work with the size and shape determined by our genes. Check out for info on finding jeans that really fit or on donating to NEDA.

February 24, 2008   No Comments

Love Your Body Tip #23 – See what your body can do

Tip #23 is purely physical:

Unleash your inner athlete.

Sometimes we don’t fully participate in life because we feel that we don’t have the “right” body for an activity. As a result, we don’t get to experience the satisfaction that comes from stretching ourselves physically and learning something new. What physical activity have you been avoiding? Have you tried ice skating, rock climbing, running, or dancing? Pick an activity that you’ve resisted and give it a try. You’ll be impressed at how your body responds.

February 23, 2008   No Comments

Love Your Body Tip #22 – Fake it ’til you make it

Now that you have your signature song, walk, piece, and mantra, what do you do if you still don’t love your body?

Fake it ’til you make it.

All tips aside, changing your attitude toward your body does not happen overnight (or over-month). Creating a positive and healthy relationship with your body is an ongoing process, one that has to be maintained in the same way we maintain other aspects of our physical health.

So, during the process, if you’re not feeling it, just act as if you feel it. Put on the positive attitude like you put on an outfit. Again, it may take a while to become second nature, but even if you’re faking it, a positive way of thinking about your body is seeping into your psyche every time you “work it.”

February 22, 2008   No Comments

Love Your Body Month Tip #21 – Make your own mantra

Continuing with the theme of “signatures,” Body Love Tip #21 is:

Make your own mantra.

We hear about affirmations and intentions all the time, but mantras? The word “mantra” comes from the Sanskrit and refers to a mystical formula of invocation or incantation. This is usually a phrase repeated over and over again.

We all have mantras–words and phrases that we think and/or say over and over again: I’m not good enough, My butt’s too big, I hate my hair. And by repeating these phrases over and over again, we give them power.

So, rather than mindlessly recite negative mantras, create a positive one. When you are feeling insecure about your body, recite that mantra over and over. Run that tape mentally as you go through the day. I like to make mine over the top and ridiculous: I’m the hottest, sexiest woman in the room. I am radiant beyond comparison. Being able to add a laugh to your mantra takes the edge off things.

Make your own mantra and use it. I highly recommend it.

February 21, 2008   No Comments

My superpower coat


This is my Tip #20 coat.

February 20, 2008   2 Comments

Love Your Body Month Tip #20 – Wear your superpower piece

The tips so far this week have all involved signatures–a walk, a song. So, Tip #20 involves a signature item:

Wear your superpower piece.

Most of us have one–that item of clothing, that pair of awesome shoes, that breathtaking piece of jewelry–that makes us feel powerful and sexy. When you find yourself feeling bad about your body, pull out your superpower garment and soar.

February 20, 2008   1 Comment

Love Your Body Month Tip #19 – Make an entrance

Now that you have your power anthem, add Tip #19 (courtesy of Tyra Banks):

Every hallway is a runway.

Throw your shoulders back, stand up straight, hold your head up high, and walk into every room like your walking down the catwalk. You’ll feel like a star.

February 19, 2008   No Comments

Curvy Art and Gifts

I came across 2 great resources for curvy art and gifts:

Big Moves Calendar: a 13-month full-color 2008 calendar featuring cast and crew of the “Big Moves” dance troupe.

Voluptuart: Art & Gifts for Celebrating Your Body: Body positive art, gifts, journals, paper, jewelry, etc.

February 18, 2008   No Comments